"Bad" is so subjective. When I was 14, my stepbrother and I were having sex on a daily basis. At the time, I thought he loved me and would marry me soon. Naughty sex was so cool. I didn't realize that he was abusing me- mistreating me and setting me up for a sad life. Bad? sorta. Took years of therapy to become whole again.
At 14, I got drunk on Peach Schnapps, and threw up blue and orange for 2 hours. at the time, it was disgusting and terrifying. NOw it is funny. See?
At 14, I babysat for kids of a 38 year old neighbor who also molested me. I thought he would leave his wife and marry me. She left him instead and got murdered. I DIDN'T REALIZE HE WAS A DRUNK AND LOSER. She was a lesbian. I didn't know what that meant at the time- except my panties kept disappearing and I would find them in her bed when I made it.
At 6, my mother died of cancer - and never smoked - but my dad smoked (can you say 2nd hand smoke.) I smoked for a few months in high school and thought it was disgusting. NOW, 60 years later, I still have to tell doctors that I smoked for a while, as an idiot kid!
I was free of alcohol, drugs and smokes for over 40 years, and then last month went to Colorado to visit my son and got high with my grown up son (legal). Bad? NO. waste of time, yeah!
Now I have the occasional glass of wine, occasional ice cream, and go nowhere that cigarettes will be. I do not enjoy watching drunks cavort and hate to be around when t hey drive. I still have plenty of time to do what i love, visit friends and relatives, be creative and work.
The best decision I ever made in my life was to become and remain sober. I have learned a lot and given a lot to the world and REMEMBER it! Most of all, I am proud of myself.
Are you? Every decision you make now matters later-if not sooner.